If fate had any personality characteristic, it would have definitely pleaded not guilty to some of the accusations levelled on it. Is it not true that anyone who fails to make it in life put ninety per cent of the blame on fate even when their own conscience convinces them that fate was nowhere near them when they were making the wrong decisions that landed them in deeper waters even when they could not swim.

Much as we find it necessary to blame others literally on any misfortune that happens as a result of our wrong judgement, poor planning and even gross negligence and lack of adherence to correct advise, we always hurt ourselves even more by blaming others. The best and most assuring way of improving in life merely is by owning up, accepting the mistake, apologising and starting afresh.

Learning from our own mistakes is the easiest way of gaining experience. The adage which states that “experience is the best teacher,” is not a fallacy as it (experience) gives the exam before one learns. Failing that kind of exam is not very painful as one takes it without investing much. The joy of making it overrides the pain of failing it. What is ultimate is the fact that the experience gained in any mistake that one makes is enough to change the status call if only everyone concerned can just look slightly beyond the damage the error has caused and concentrate on the benefits that the mistake has subjected the one who has made it and the lessons that can be drawn from it.

To error is surely human though to forgive is quiet Devine. The Bible talks about the woman who was caught in the act of committing adultery and was referred to Jesus for judgement. Jesus knew the law, and in his wisdom, he asked those without sin to cast the first stone. It is recorded that no one did and the poor woman was forgiven. But what was even more critical was the caution not to sin again. The simple lesson we are all compelled to learn is the aspect of enduring the pain of forgiving the offender for giving him or her the opportunity to reform. Kudos to all of you who in a lifetime have exercised the leniency and pertience of giving another person chance to start on a new note.

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